Your Wholeness Journey – DAY THIRTEEN: Looking Sharp

Today’s principle focus is on creating a successful image, looking and feeling sharp!

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Today’s Positive Affirmation and Encouraging Words to Live By:

“I am a great example of Christ in action and I am able to minister positively to others through the way that I present myself.”

Scripture Reference: Proverbs 31:22

Think on this: While the proverb states “She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.” It could just as easily read: “From our homes to our attire, the wise man and woman of God have got it going on!”

“Wash and perfume yourself, and put on your best clothes. Then go down to the threshing floor, but don’t let him know that you are there until he has finished eating and drinking…” In the middle of the night something startled the man, and he turned and discovered a young woman lying at his feet.“The LORD bless you, my daughter,” he replied. “This kindness is greater than that which you showed earlier: You have not run after the younger men, whether rich or poor. And now, my daughter, don’t be afraid. I will do for you all you ask. All my fellow townsmen know that you are a woman of noble character.” – Ruth 3:3

Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth. – 2 Tim 2:15

ON A SCALE OF 1-10… (10 being the highest most confident in the area of appearance.) How stylish/put together do you feel?

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It is easy to see the value in getting dressed up, we dress our best for Sunday church, special occasions, and even for work.

Today we are going to cover a topic most sermons don’t cover, the importance of our day-to-day dress and appearance. Have you considered dressing your best, all the time? It wasn’t until I read Proverbs 31:22, that I saw that a wise person not only takes care of the inner man but of their outer selves as well.

Did you know that God wants you to be rich? Rich in love, rich in relationships, and rich in joy. It is His desire for you to be fully blessed. The Jewish have a word for it, ‘Shalom’.

Shalom means, nothing missing and nothing broken. You may hear as a standard Jewish greeting, “Shalom unto you, Shalom.” Their greeting is set up as if to say, “God’s blessings be unto you.” We will cover Shalom in detail, a little later.

I know quite a few single men and women who always look stunning! Their hair is shinny, clean, and their clothes are pressed. I did too, until I started having children and stopped trying to keep myself up. Being clean and dressed nice was superseded by whatever worked at the time.

Today’s focus is on remembering to be set on becoming stylish in the morning. Not only to look nice for your family, but to be available to serve the Lord. If the Lord called you to minister right now, are you dressed for it? Or do you serve only after you feel you are ready for it?

RUTH

One of our scripture references for today is a scripture out of the book of Ruth. Ruth was an astounding woman and in doing her family right, she became blessed and honored. When you read the scripture, did you notice that the key to unlocking Ruth’s blessing from Boaz was for Ruth to wash and perfume herself and put on her best clothes?

When we present ourselves to others, we are stating our belief in ourselves. What does all this have to do with Shalom? Until you can fully grasp that God desires prosperity in your life, you will not be able to understand God’s kind of prosperity or why it is important to present our best to others.

Some people choose to think that because they don’t have much money, they simply can’t appear pleasant. It is like those without funds are being limited 24-7. You can’t look nice, you don’t want to let anyone see our car, without money it can feel as if you are stuck not adding any value to the lives of others at all. You may even get fooled into believing that you can’t pray for someone, and unfortunately sometimes you can even begin to think that you can’t enter into the Kingdom.

Most Christians feel morally at odds with getting or being rich. They feel as if God would be displeased with them and if they weren’t found in a constant struggle they wouldn’t be found worthy, and that just isn’t so! If this were true, Ruth would have been told to just go home! “You don’t need a husband, or a family, as a matter of fact God told me He wants you to show Him how much you love Him by living an ordinary and dull existence, the rest of your life!” But instead, Ruth is so honored in her triumphant story that her life is written down in the everlasting book of the Bible, alongside with the Apostles and the Psalms written by some of the greatest men in history.

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As a matter of fact, there is a central theme of “prosperity and triumph” woven throughout the entire Bible.

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The Bible’s very premise and purpose is one of encouragement and joy. The telling of Ruth and the care she showed to her mother-in-law, is just one of these historical encouraging events. The Bible does not share with us every event in history, but it does show us the history of redemption. Each act in the book is a stage of cause and effect, all with the same conclusion redemption.

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God’s definition of prosperity is different than ours.

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God’s definition of prosperity is very different than ours. In our physical world, we are conditioned to see things in one dimension. Ever since you were a child you were taught to think in terms of only what you can see. Such as, “Burr, I’m cold,” or “Urgh, I’m hungry.” God is not looking at us to see how we feel He is looking to us to live by faith, despite how we feel.

A well-known preacher has said, “Prosperity with God is not determined by what you have but by what has YOU.”

The very basis of ones ability to comfortably be found stylish and appear put together inside and out, is based on how ‘rich and prosperous’ they feel inside. Not at all based on what you have or don’t have.

If you didn’t know that you were initially created to “have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth,” (Gen.1: 26) and that God created you to have dominion, you wouldn’t know that God wants you and desires for you to have dominion and a life full of prosperity.

If you knew that no matter what you tried you couldn’t fail, what would you do? How would you feel? Wouldn’t you feel like a million bucks?

It is my belief, that there are enough promises and scriptures found in the Bible that people don’t ever have to live in fear again. Scripture says that Christ has reversed the curse that was put on Adam and Eve, and that we as His people can once again walk with dominion over all the earth! (Galatians 3:13)

If you aren’t feeling confident and stylish at the moment and all you can afford is a cheap franchise haircut, get it anyway. I used to think that was beneath me. I used to think hairstyling had to cost hundreds of dollars or you wouldn’t be getting a good cut. In turn I wouldn’t keep up my looks. Looking like I didn’t care became much worse than having a “decent” cut. If you go someplace inexpensive, just make sure you keep it simple and don’t expect too much. A lot of great hair stylists start out in these types of places.

As far as clothes are concerned, if you can’t afford to revamp your own wardrobe, start wearing those special outfits everyday, instead of only once a week or never. For those of you that always look great but may feel horrible on the inside, begin to work on reading your Bible and changing that inner voice. Find as much as you can with in its pages on how to walk in confidence both inside and out. Another thing I have learned is to make my bed everyday.

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Studies have proven people who make their beds everyday have a higher self-image than others.

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Stack your books in nice and tidy stacks. Instead of putting your yucky clothes on and taking your make-up off as soon as you get home today, try your best to keep looking nice until bedtime.

Our kids know when Dad is about to come home because an hour before he is due to arrive I make sure to clean the house, do my hair and put on my make-up – when possible. Some mornings I get to it right away, some times I don’t, but at least every night before Daddy comes home, all things come together.

I know this might sound silly, but if you can afford it, go and buy some nice pajamas. One year, I took Jeff to a department store to buy brand named pajamas. They weren’t cheap by any means, but they have lasted forever. He always remarks on what a good night sleep he gets when he wears those pajamas. Nicely fitting, cotton pajamas. A good night’s rest is a great way to begin feeling good inside and out. When our house and our bodies look their best all the time, it creates within us a desire to expect greatness out of ourselves and out of others. People will begin to listen to us more when we speak, and we will begin to draw resources to us by our positive outlook on life. When we are constantly looking at where we can improve ourselves, and are focused on personal growth, we can begin being placed in a position of spiritual dominion over our circumstances. The bottom line, when we take initiative to appear our best, we are often found at our best.

Taking care and personally stylizing our lives will affect your whole family. Your children will begin to see a new you, they will see that their parents are taking care of themselves, and they will begin to think that they should too. Your spouse will begin to take notice of you, and you will start setting yourself apart from the nicely dressed but overworked coworkers in their workplace. They will eagerly want to bless you and do anything to help support you and your desire to get more ‘style’. Regardless of the outcome, by the end of the day you will know within yourself that you have changed and that now you are ready to serve!

Suggested Resources:

God Wants You to Be Rich “How and Why Everyone Can Enjoy Material and Spiritual Wealth in Our Abundant World.” By Paul Zane Pilzner

This book is a phenomenal book on economics. With so much talk about “scarcity”, Pilzner goes into great deal on how God would never let his creation out live their resources. Pilzner has masterfully crafted a book full of facts on the environment and technology, and will give you everything you will need to know to share with others Gods laws of abundance.

The Greatest Miracle in the World By Og Mandino

This is the most exciting book I have ever read! You will go back and forth between, is this really happening? And it must be real! Og Mandino has cleverly written a novel with characters that you wish could live on forever. I easily read this book once a year, and always recommend it to people as the best personal growth book ever written.

This Principle in Action:

According to the book of Esther, the women who were selected to go before the King had to undergo quite the beautification process. Before a girl’s turn came to go in to King Xerxes, she had to complete twelve months of beauty treatments prescribed for the women, six months with oil of myrrh and six with perfumes and cosmetics. Esther 2:12

Queen Esther was presented to the King in her best form. She was respected and loved deeply due to the fact that she had knowledge in her heart of the scripture and her outer beauty portrayed her inner righteousness. She would read to the King at night and tell him of her homeland. As it was she single handedly through her bravery and encouragement from her uncle ended up saving the entire Nation of Israel from destruction. Her external beauty that 108 radiated from an inward confidence softened the heart of a King, and ended up saving an entire civilization of people.

Today’s Key Take Away:

• Whether rich or poor, decide today to put your best foot forward. Give yourself an extra 10 to 15 minutes to put forth the energy to care. Learn to love the way you look and present yourself to others with an inwardly and outwardly positive presentation. You are a beautiful and miraculous creation, created by God for a specific reason, let your light shine from your heart and know that God desires the absolute best for His children.

Today’s Reflection: What did I learn about myself? When you dress your best, do you notice a difference inside yourself? Do you walk taller or breath deeper? How did today turn out having been prepare to serve, did anyone take notice?

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Your Wholeness Journey – DAY TWELVE: Fearlessness

Today’s principle focus is on being Fearless

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Today’s Positive Affirmation and Encouraging Words to Live By:

“I do not worry or have fear, for God is with me.”

Scripture Reference: Proverbs 31:21

Think on this: While the proverb states “When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.” It could just as easily read: “The person who is wise does not worry. They are grounded in their confidence of the Word, and to them their family stands out and apart from the rest.”

He continued this subject with his disciples. “Don’t fuss about what’s on the table at mealtimes or if the clothes in your closet are in fashion. There is far more to your inner life than the food you put in your stomach, more to your outer appearance than the clothes you hang on your body. Look at the ravens, free and unfettered, not tied down to a job description, carefree in the care of God. And you count far more. Has anyone by fussing before the mirror ever gotten taller by so much as an inch? If fussing can’t even do that, why fuss at all? Walk into the fields and look at the wildflowers. They don’t fuss with their appearance—but have you ever seen color and design quite like it? The ten best-dressed men and women in the country look shabby alongside them. If God gives such attention to the wildflowers, most of them never even seen, don’t you think he’ll attend to you, take pride in you, do his best for you? What I’m trying to do here is get you to relax, not be so preoccupied with getting so you can respond to God’s giving. People who don’t know God and the way he works fuss over these things, but you know both God and how he works. Steep yourself in God-reality, God-initiative, God-provisions. You’ll find all your everyday human concerns will be met. Don’t be afraid of missing out. You’re my dearest friends! The Father wants to give you the very kingdom itself. – Luke 12:22-32 The Message

ON A SCALE OF 1-10… (10 being the highest most confident in the area of fearlessness.) How fearless do you feel you are?

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What does being “fearless” mean to you? In my opinion, fearlessness is best defined as a relaxed sense, or a lack of worry about a current circumstance. Today, we are going to practice the right kind of fearlessness. Today we are going to think about and practice having confidence in God and the way He does things.

Before I became a Christian, I used to think that being fearless meant having the ability to do crazy stunts without dying. Like bungee jump off bridges, sky diving, or eat disgusting foods. Fearlessness to me used to be all about crazy and zany activities.

It was only after I became a Christian that I realized true “fearlessness” wasn’t in any one particular action, true fearlessness was found in the ability to live free from worry.

Have you ever been guilty of worrying over what you have to eat, however little it might be? God is calling out to us to believe in Him, to believe in His promises. He will neither forsake us nor abandon us. – Deuteronomy 31:8

Too often, we begin to humanize God. We begin to feel as if He will let us down just as everyone else has done so in the past. The bitter feeling of our emptiness and loneliness prevents us from being able to imagine a loving and caring Heavenly Father that wants what’s best for us.

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When our own parents, friends, spouse, brothers, sisters have been so harmful to us, how are we supposed to be able to trust God for everything? We can see them!

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Have you not known? Have you not heard? The everlasting God, the LORD, The Creator of the ends of the earth, neither faints nor is weary. His understanding is un-searchable. He gives power to the weak, and to those who have no might He increases strength. Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall, but those who wait on the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint. – Isaiah 40:28-31

Fearlessness comes from a lack of worry. Having faith in God comes from the strength that He gives us, and we grow confident in our faith when we give up the thinking that God might let us down. God is in the business of lifting us up! Christ himself says that He will not do anything to harm us.

The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. – John 10:10

Our Father does not want you to worry. He does not want you to be living in bondage to fear! He wants you to live freely and abundantly and carefree. God is all around you, guiding you and protecting you.

Then Jesus spoke to them again, saying, “I am the light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life.” – John 8:12

I often hear my sons playing an imaginary game of Superheroes. As they each pretend to be one, I hear them go on and on about their “special” powers. One might have the power of invisibleness, while the other might have super strength. The most desired power that they pretend to have is the power of invincibility. This is the power to go through rocks, jump off buildings, and not get ill. To the children, the power of invincibility is the strongest most sought out strength of all their “Super-powers”.

Did you know that invincibility isn’t limited just to Super-heroes, but we can be invincible too? Not invincible in body, for our human bodies alone can’t handle much. In Christ, however we have an internal invincibility backed by eternal life! (John 3:15) Our invincibility comes from the Word of God, and from the power He has given within us. Living by the power of the Holy Spirit can and will repel any harm from befalling you.

If you have become a Christian, and have accepted the Holy Spirit into your heart, you now live with a God inspired invincibility that will guide you from walking into harmful situations.

The Holy Spirit will give you the wisdom that you need in order to avoid calamity, detour destruction, and keep you from harboring worry. Keeping your mind focused on Christ and the Word of God creates a fearlessness that will begin to radiate out through you, and give you the peace of mind that Christ says is available to all His believers. He wants us all to be brave, and to trust God with the welfare of our family.

But ye have an unction from the Holy One, and ye know all things. – 1 John 2:20

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According to scripture a fearless person sees their family as if they are clothed in scarlet.

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During the time that this proverb was written, only the richest men and women could have ever afforded the luxury of a purple, blue, or scarlet piece of clothing.

My Grandfather once explained to me that, the different paint and dye colors in history have come from different mineral properties found in the Earth across various regions of the world.

The color most associated with royalty has been the color purple. Purple was the most expensive dye that could have been made available. Originally, purple came from the crushing of Mediterranean Murex, or seashells. These seashells could only be found in one area of the world, in Tyrian, Lebanon. Other regions offered other colors. Sienna and Umbra are examples of browns, in the case of purple, it would have taken ten thousand mollusk seashells to create one purple Roman toga!

Most clothing, of the day would have been natural colored fabric. Off-whites, all natural hues of sandy tones, often people wore dusty clothes and were not uniquely attired at all. No average person would have walked around town with scarlet clothing!

Can you imagine back then how difficult it would have been to locate a lost or hurting child in a crowd? What would set your child apart from others? In the case of Proverbs 31, scripture says that the one who is found fearless will respond to situations placing their faith in God to the point that to them, it would be as if their children were clothed in scarlet!

Even though their families may not have been literally draped in scarlet, in their mothers fearless confident eyes she could easily determine which children were hers and exactly where they were at all times. Her children’s love for God and their fearless hearts, would separate them, and put them apart. It is only when we become afraid, that we lose focus and cannot see clearly God’s promises to us.

Today, let us practice having faith and not fear for the security of our families. Begin to pray for your children’s safety, and let them go about their day. Jesus’ own mother Mary had to deal with worry over her son.

So when they did not find Him, they returned to Jerusalem, seeking Him. Now so it was that after three days they found Him in the temple, sitting in the midst of the teachers, both listening to them and asking them questions. And all who heard Him were astonished at His understanding and answers. So when they saw Him, they were amazed; and His mother said to Him, “Son, why have You done this to us? Look, Your father and I have sought You anxiously.” And He said to them, “Why did you seek Me? Did you not know that I must be about My Father’s business?” – Luke 2:45-50

Even Mary had to be reminded to rely on The Word of God. It wasn’t until they had come all the way home to Jerusalem that she and Joseph noticed that Jesus was missing. It wasn’t until fear set in, that Mary began the process of worry. Once she let that worry set in, it clouded the Word that God had given her, that Word that said that Christ was going to be the Savior!

Don’t let worry render you fearful. Don’t let worry cause your children and family to begin to look like everyone else. Don’t let your worry block their spiritual covering, and keep them from seeing about the Father’s business.

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Even children are called to God for a purpose, they have a destiny all their own! [Jeremiah 29:11]

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Today’s principle focus is on letting go of fear. Today let us practice not falling into fear of letting the children go outside, fear of visiting and cheering up a friend who is ill, the fear of going to school, or even the fear of a cough that might someday go bad. Instead, today we will practice speaking faith filled words instead of fear. Today we will begin applying the scriptures of hope and promise that God has in His Word for our families, and start living fear free today!

Family Promises:

Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; they shall not be ashamed, but shall speak with their enemies in the gate. – Psalm 127:3-5

Blessed is every one who fears the LORD, who walks in His ways. When you eat the labor of your hands, you shall be happy, and it shall be well with you. Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine in the very heart of your house, your children like olive plants all around your table. Behold, thus shall the man be blessed who fears the LORD. – Psalm 128:1-4

Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, and whose hope is the LORD. For he shall be like a tree planted by the waters, which spreads out its roots by the river, and will not fear when heat comes; but its leaf will be green, and will not be anxious in the year of drought, nor will cease from yielding fruit. – Jeremiah 17:7-8

Today’s Key Take Away:

• Deciding to live fear free is a differentiator from the norm. When we live fear free we choose to step into the role of leader. Fearless leaders show others through example that they have confidence in God’s Word and how He does things. They can fully trust God’s promises and are confident in allowing their children to do the work God has in store for them.

Today’s Reflection: What did I learn about myself? How has focusing on living fear free helped you? Did you notice any more time on your hands when you weren’t worried? What were you able to accomplish today?

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Your Wholeness Journey – DAY ELEVEN: Compassion

Today’s principle focus is on Compassion

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Today’s Positive Affirmation and Encouraging Words to Live By:

“I am always available to help those in need.”

Scripture Reference: Proverbs 31:20

Think on this: While the proverb states “She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.” It could just as easily read: “Those who show compassion and reach out to the needs of others are wise.”

When they had finished eating, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon son of John, do you truly love me more than these?” “Yes, Lord,” he said, “You know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Feed my lambs.” Again Jesus said, “Simon son of John, do you truly love me?” He answered, “Yes, Lord, you know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Take care of my sheep.” The third time he said to him, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” Peter was hurt because Jesus asked him the third time, “Do you love me?” He said, “Lord, you know all things; you know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Feed my sheep.” – John 21:15-17

ON A SCALE OF 1-10… (10 being the highest most confident in the area of compassion) How compassionate do you feel you are?

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Today’s focus in on compassion, a compassionate person can always be found lending a hand to the needy. Even when we are in great need, we can still be compassionate to the needs of others. It is with the constant thought of giving that we can begin to see the needs of others.

She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. – Proverbs 31:20

This Principle in Action:

Jeff and Jessica Heilman: Personal Testimony

When my second son was an infant, my husband Jeff and I had to believe in God for a financial miracle. Jeff had been interviewing at different companies through out the Dallas area. One such company hired him and he was going to get paid more than double anything he had ever been paid before!

The financial miracle that we needed had to occur during the interim period, that somewhat scary period between no job and the first paycheck. We had no money in savings, and we were committed to living life debt free. As a couple, we had decided that we were going to “give our way out” and put God’s Word to the test. We came to an agreement for finances, and trusted that God alone would provide for us according to His riches in glory. We decided that no one needed to know about our situation. The Lord knew about our need, and we knew the need, that was it. Instead of borrowing were decided to pray, and let God give to us what we needed.

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What I’m trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God’s giving. – Matthew 6:33 The Message

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Armed with our understanding of sowing and reaping (Luke 6:38), instead of gathering all our pennies to spend, we did the opposite, and gave them away to those in need. I can remember paying a gasoline attendant 9$ in change for our gas in pennies, nickels, and dimes. Our funds had gotten that low. We didn’t know how God was going to do it, but whatever it was that He was going to do, and in whatever time He chose, we knew that He was our hero and capable of anything.

Saturday night before our first paycheck, I lay awake thinking to myself “Ok, it is 2 am. We have no more money and the baby is in his last diaper. We have a quarter of a tank of gas, and we wont get paid until next Friday. God, what else can I give?” My heart was fixed on the desire to give more, and more.

“Your prayers” God answered me simply, “You can still give to others through your prayers. Pray for the body of Christ, that it would be obedient. When the body gives to its members, no one will be in need of anything again.” He then took me to that scripture about Jesus and Simon Peter feeding the sheep. Jesus was programming Simon Peter’s mind to think compassionately towards others.

As a result of this word, I immediately began praying for everyone I knew, and those I didn’t know. I prayed for the church, the city, the Nation. I prayed that God’s people would begin to be obedient to their callings, and that they would be blessed, and successful. I prayed that all would receive the spirit of compassion and respond by caring for one another.

Sunday morning, Jeff and I woke up fresh and very much alive. We had survived to live another day! I was completely at ease, having prayed myself to sleep the night before. We figured that if we were going to go anywhere, church was where we needed to be. On the way to church we didn’t care that we didn’t have enough gas money to get home, or that Joseph was in his last diaper. We figured that God was going to deliver us one way or another, and if we had to walk home we would.

As soon as we got to the church, we were opening doors for people and letting others sit down before us. After church, we did our usual routine and picked up our boys and got into the car to head home. We started down the long driveway exiting the church, when we noticed a big burly man walking down the side of the driveway. This man was covered in black leather, completed with long hair and a beard. He looked very out of place at our traditional church.

Jeff immediately found compassion for a lone walker on the road and a lump rose in my throat as Jeff started pulling the car over to offer this “Hell’s Angel” looking man a ride.

Opening the door, the man smiled and was grateful for the assistance. I jumped over the center console and into the back of the car with the boys, and Jeff and the unnamed man began to chat.

This man was a trucker, and since the drive was so long and narrow he had to park his rig away from the church. He was a member of the motorcycle club in the church, and when he was in town he would come to church on Sunday. After a surprisingly delightful conversation we came to his rig and he said “Thanks”.

Smiling, we said that we were glad to do it. Then understanding that the man was going on another long haul, we grabbed some church sermons from the glove box to give him for his driving. We were still committed to “giving our way out, in to a miracle.”

“WOW! Thanks!” The man said, “Is there anything I can do for you?”

“Well,” Jeff gulped “Maybe if you could give us like five bucks for the tapes, so we can buy some gas, that would be great.”

“Mister, I can do better than that.” With that, I saw this big “scary” looking man pull out a hundred dollar bill from his pocket. “God told me to give this to you!”

After he did, everyone in the car started balling. We were all crying with joy! The unnamed man went on to say:

“Once, when I was really down on my luck a buddy of mine gave me a hundred dollar bill. When I finally got back on my feet, I went back to my buddy to repay him. He told me to keep the hundred dollars, and he said “Someday you will come across someone else who needs that hundred dollars, when you do, give it to them.”

This gentle giant went on to tell Jeff and me, “As soon as I heard your car misfiring on the driveway, I knew you needed help. You picked me up, and I know I am supposed to give this hundred dollars to you!”

WOW! How I had misjudged this messenger of God! When we all do our part to listen and act, it is the greatest thing to watch how we all relate to each other! We didn’t even need a hundred dollars! All we really needed was like twenty dollars to get us through the week. We immediately paid our tithes and then that hundred dollars not only bought us diapers, it bought us food, gas, and completely sustained us until payday! God had heard our prayers, felt our compassion towards others, and rewarded our obedience!

Practice having compassion today! I have told our “Hundred Dollar Testimony” dozens of times. If you practice reaching out to others in compassion, perhaps your blessing to others will be received in the very same way!

Today’s Key Take Away:

• Compassion is the key to the safety and security of the body of Christ. If we can listen to the Lord and give when we feel called to give, we will be participating in a miraculous giving cycle. You have no idea when you may be in need not just financially but for prayer, healing, or support. If you can practice compassion to others, you yourself will benefit greatest by creating a compassionate heart within yourself.

• How many times have you given something away, just to have something better given back to you? Let’s focus today on praying for others, and meeting needs. Enjoy the process of making others begin to feel complete.

Today’s Reflection: What did I learn about myself? What miracles have you known God to do for you? When was the last time you gave to someone in need? Where you genuine? What kind of needs do you see in your family, community, or Nation? Can you do anything about them? Have you prayed about them?

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Your Wholeness Journey – DAY TEN: Contentment

Today’s principle focus is on contentment in WHO you are

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Today’s Positive Affirmation and Encouraging Words to Live By:

“I am exactly WHO God wants me to be.”

Scripture Reference: Proverbs 31:19

Think on this: While the proverb states “She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.” It could just as easily read: “Those who are wise, work diligently at the task at hand, accepting that which is required.”

But I rejoiced in the Lord greatly that now at last your care for me has flourished again; though you surely did care, but you lacked opportunity. Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content: I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. – Philippians 4:10-13

ON A SCALE OF 1-10… (10 being the highest most confident in the area of contentment) Write down on a piece of paper where you see yourself in the area of Contentment. How content do you feel in WHO you are?

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The Apostle Paul described contentment best, “I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Paul states that he has learned how to master his emotions and to be thankful for all that he has, and who he is regardless of any current situation.

Contentment is not only required for us with what we have, we also must become content in who we are. We as men and women have to be aware of our differences, and be content in the roles that we play. Even though we are one in Christ, we all have a different way of conveying His Message. Although in God’s eyes we are all equal – no two people are alike, and we have all been created as individuals, according to God’s (Jer. 29:11) plan.

WHEN EQUALITY BRINGS CONFUSION

Scripture states in Galatians 3:28 There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. It is by God’s original design man and woman be treated as equal individuals and when they marry these two individuals become ONE FLESH. (Mark 10:8) This equality was never meant to overtake or become more important than ones individuality –Not all flesh is the same. (1 Cor. 15:38)

It is satan’s goal to confuse mankind and rob from us all of our individuality, for within our individuality comes our creative power and strength. All outliers in history became prominent as individuals doing things in their own creative and different ways. Equality DOES NOT MEAN SAMENESS – equality means opportunity.

Unfortunately the more “equal” we become as a society (which is how God has intended us from the beginning of time) the more forceful the devil must become in causing us to conform to a certain type of “SAMENESS”. This is the problem we are seeing in our traditional school systems today. The more EQUAL we as a nation have become politically and spiritually – the more frustrated the enemy becomes and attempts to squelch all of our individuality. Arts, music, and sports programs get cut from schools before the subjects which require the most calculations and memorization. While we as adults may be gaining equality politically and spiritually – our children sadly are most often left in danger of loosing their individuality.  

Sadly this “SAMENESS EDUCATION” (a result of a 1900’s manufacturing economy and the enemies strategy to confuse our understanding of equality) has left many men questioning their manhood in order to remain unique, and many women have questioned their femininity as a way of voluntarily becoming different. Instead of questioning their creative skills and talents because they feel they may not have any, they question their very own God given image. 

Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen. For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due. – Romans 1:24-27

Through scripture, it has been revealed to us that this unnatural cause of affection, and this desire to be EXACTLY as the opposite sex is rooted in the misunderstanding of ones personal identity in Christ.

Some men have come to conclude that they need to become overly sensitive in order to deliver their creative messages and women have become led to believe that their message can only be heard through a masculine voice.

Let me reassure you that, being male or female is of no regard in the body of Christ. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. No matter how “evident” the physical differences may be between men and women, we have all become one in Christ. EQUAL individuals.

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There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus. -Galatians 3:28

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What does this scripture mean to us? As believers, it means that we are all capable and qualified to become Pastors, Teachers, Evangelists, Prophets, and Apostles! Regardless of being made as men or women! Hallelujah!

Scripture says: And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers, for the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ. – Ephesians 4:12

In the flesh men and women, have obvious differences. As believers we must accept, realize, and be content with God and His divine wisdom that He has a purpose for our blatant differences.

For instance, just recently the Lord has shown me how as a woman I am able to communicate the Gospel in a different arena than my husband. I have an ability to impress men with a woman’s knowledge of the Word, and as far as my husband is concerned he is able to minister to women in a leading way that I never could. His ministry comes from a position of authority, and my ministry comes from a position of mothering and sensitivity.

It is in my opinion that all men saved or unsaved, need a mothering and loving figurehead, and all women need a male figurehead to give them good and fatherly-type counsel. Though keep in mind, there is never a reason to counsel men or women alone one on one. Please be careful to have a group setting, or telephone conversation when needing to counsel the opposite sex. Though you know you are faithful to God, the enemy could use someone’s wild imaginations to try and expose you as something you are not.

Wise men and women know when to be content in their God given roles. Proverbs 31:19, describes a person who grabs the distaff and spindle with their fingers. This person grabs hold of their position in life and works with it, not against it. This person grabs ahold of life by taking that spindle (or role) by their hands, and works with it until it produces the exact intended result.

Women most certainly will produce different results than men, and men will produce different results than women. Neither one ‘better’ than the other, both conveying the same message, each delivering the message in their own unique way.

In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat her with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. If you don’t treat her as you should, your prayers will not be heard. – 1 Peter 3:7 (NAS)

Respect is earned, not demanded I find it important to mention here, true respect is not something that you can demand of another person. Respect can only be earned through consistent proof of ones intentions. A tyrannical man or woman has earned no more respect by the end of the day, than a person who demands absolutely nothing at all.

If you desire the respect of your spouse (either male or female), you must begin to make it your mission to earn it. Prove to each other that you love each other, and that you have their best interest at heart, and on your heart.

Together in marriage our teams work best when they work in unison, being in complete agreement. We are stronger when we as individuals come together as equal partners.

Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Eccl 4:12

“Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.” Matt 18:19

Today, studying the characteristics of contentment, we are found assuming our roles as true men and women of God, doing what each other cannot do. Men have a tendency to be focus driven (sometimes narrow minded), quick to action (sometimes overly gruff), and incredibly enthusiastic (sometimes crazily sporadic).

Women have the ability to calm the storm (sometimes to the point of apathy), emotionally balance the ship (sometimes nagging their way out of balance), and subtly turn the rudder (unfortunately often not so subtly).

Let us focus today on our attributes in their best sense. Let us focus on not controlling or steering a new course, but perfecting the direction of the ship, causing the boat to maintain its chosen course with the limited amount of distractions.

What can we as women do encourage, support, and strengthen our husbands as they make the difficult and trying decisions of life? What can you as husbands do to relieve the stresses of the world that your wives consistently take on their shoulders? With a humble heart, and trust in our Heavenly Father as a “trifold” team (God, Husband & Wife), each doing our part, and content in our perspective individual roles, we can create something great!

Suggested Potential Resources:

For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn and Jeff Feldhahn

For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women by Shaunti Feldhahn and Jeff Feldhahn

Both these books are incredible at unlocking the mysteries of men and women. If you have ever wondered what makes your spouse tick, or why they do what they do, buy these books and read them. As a woman I learned that men function from a level of respect, and women function from an emotional need for love. Both of these books will greatly encourage you and enlighten you in ways of making your marriage work for the best.

Letters to Karen & Letters to Philip by Charlie W. Shedd Charlie Shedd as a loving father has written two books to his children, one named Karen and one named Philip. These books are a compilation of the letters that he wrote to them about life and marriage. They cover everything from finances to sex. These books will give you an amazing ear and understanding of the correct relationship not only between husband and wife, but father and child.

This Principle in Action: Ronald and Nancy Reagan: Former President of America and First Lady

Throughout history, there have been countless couples that have embraced and accepted their certain roles, and have become “Power Couples”. When I think of power couples in the Bible, I think of Abraham and Sarah, King Xerxes and Queen Esther, Joseph and Mary, etc. There have also been many single men and women who have assumed a role of ‘messenger’ regardless of their sex, like the Israeli Judge Deborah and of course our Savior and Lord Jesus. Since we are talking of ‘Power Couples’ and being content in the roles in marriage, I would like to remind us all of the amazing Reagan family.

Regardless if you agree on their political points of view or not, as a couple they were very much in love and made a great deal out of supporting each other. Ronald met Nancy in Hollywood. They were both actors, and he worked for the Screen Actor’s Guild. While Nancy will not admit to love at first sight, she was never the less enamored by him. On March 4, 1952 they were married. They later had two children. Anyone who knew the Reagan’s knew they were deeply in love and as he began to seek out his political aspirations, Nancy was right by his side.

Not only did Ronald end up being elected President, he was President for two terms, and in those terms Nancy served her country in various ways, including developing the very successful “Just Say No!” to drugs campaign. It is said that he often referred to her as “Mommy,” and she referred to him as “Ronnie.” They displayed openly the affection that they had of one another and after Ronald was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Nancy told Vanity Fair, “Our relationship is very special. We were very much in love and still are. When I say my life began with Ronnie, well, it’s true. It did. I can’t imagine life without him.” 

Today’s Key Take Away:

• When we are content as men and women in Christ, it opens the doors for us to be the most effective. Men and women are different, and even though it is a level playing field in our abilities, the nature of us being created differently is on purpose and by design. Men can command a room by simply entering it, and women can warm the hearts of anyone with a genuine smile and with thoughtful consideration. Today we are focusing on being ALL men, and ALL women. Trusting that as we do this, God will show us the best way possible to convey His message in our respective roles.

Today’s Reflection: What did I learn about myself? How has today’s focus on being content in your roles, helped you? Have you done anything different on the job, or in your marriage? Did you find it necessary to ask for forgiveness, or to celebrate in your God-given role? How did your spouse respond?

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Your Wholeness Journey – DAY SEVEN

Today’s principle of focus is on Sensibility

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Today’s Positive Affirmation and Encouraging Words to Live By:

“I always make prosperous financial decisions.”

Scripture Reference: Proverbs 31:16

Think on this: While the scripture states “She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.” It could just as easily read: “Those who are wise will think twice before spending their money. When they do, they buy what they need and it profits them, not diminishes them.”

Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers. – 3 John 1:2

ON A SCALE OF 1-10… (10 being the highest most confident in your sensibility) Write down on a piece of paper where you see yourself in the area of common senses. How sensible do you feel you are?

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Today’s focus is on sensibility and spending. Earlier we talked about financial wisdom and the impact wise prioritized spending has on our ability to stay debt free. When I was little I can remember my Grandmother making bread from scratch. I can remember watching as she tirelessly kneaded the dough and buttered the loaves. Bread baking when I was a child was cheap and resourceful. Today however, with bread being as affordable as it is, we don’t have to make our own bread – but we do need to understand the thinking behind the action of baking homemade bread.

Being resourceful and using the items you have is a focus today. Don’t be too hasty in throwing out yesterday’s leftover chicken. Try to make something else with the meat if you can. Today we will do our best to be resourceful and instead of buying something new and made by someone else, today we will try create something we need out of something we already have. When we lived in Oregon we once had neighbors who never ate leftovers. I thought to myself, Wow! What they are missing, and how expensive!

Homemade bread bakers are baking it for two reasons, cost and quality. How many times have you walked into the grocery store and picked up a meal that was already prepared, only to realize that it wasn’t very good? You think to yourself that perhaps with a little bit more of an effort you could have been more creative and your food could have been tastier. Today is the day you get to do better!

Even the most horrible cooks can take a class and learn the basics of cooking. Working with your hands will also give you a sense of accomplishment and pride.

Any time manufacturing is involved the cost of goods increases dramatically. Even if the bread at the store is only $3.00 a loaf, you aren’t just paying for the bread, but for the cost to make it, the advertising, their profit margin, the packaging, and the distribution as well. In all reality, the loaf of bread cost less than a dollar to make. When you mix yeast, flour, butter, and water, you get bread. If you had the time and decided to make your own bread, it could be more affordable than the $3.00+ a loaf at the store.

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Financial sensibility says that money is too valuable to waste.

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So begin your shopping day today with tomorrow in the forefront of your mind. Resourcefulness is a key factor in being sensible. Does this purchase make sense? Will I regret this decision in the up coming years?

If you look at your purchases through the realm of the long-term impact on your finances, you will begin to save yourself time and money. Sometimes cheap things aren’t the most sensible. As a matter of fact, quality most often out-performs quantity. Our 10 year-old Mercedes Benz has proven this to be true, out lasting any of our cheaper newer cars. Financial sensibility says that money is too valuable to waste.

Spending money is a good thing to do and it is a necessary part of life. Money has no spiritual value in the Kingdom of God. Just as cars or houses do not define us, neither do the dollars in our bank account. The main purpose of money is merely to purchase things that we need, in order to live, and to invest in spreading the gospel. Everything else is just an added blessing!

Be sensible this week when you go shopping, pay bills, or eat out. Consider how many different uses the product that you are about to buy can have. Can you use it more than once? Can it be made into something else? Can you freeze what is left over? Asking yourself these types of questions will help you to make wise purchases and just might save you some valuable “dough”.

Suggested Reading and Potential Resources:

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living By: Dale Carnegie

Learn how to put aside the cares of the day and how to pace your life so that you are able to stop worrying and start living, today!

Out of the Black Shadows By: Stephen Lungu

This heart-wrenching biography will help you to focus on what is really important in life. It is the emotional true story of a boy who was born in Zimbabwe and was forced to raise himself from the time he was just 7 years old. Abandoned by his mother and father, his triumphs are really remarkable. You’ll laugh, and cry, but mostly you will thoroughly enjoy reading this book! His very life story is an outline in resourcefulness.

Today’s Key Take Away:

• Think before you buy. How can I be more resourceful? Does this item/s have a purpose greater than just to be used for what I want? Your money will begin to work for you, when you consider how it is spent.

Today’s Reflection: What did I learn about myself? Today, while you were out did you think twice? Did you think of the what and the why? Did you feel led to think about investing long term vs. short term in your spending?

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Your Wholeness Journey – DAY SIX

Today’s principle focus is on Patience

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Today’s Positive Affirmation and Encouraging Words to Live By: “I am happy to wake up early!”

Scripture Reference: Proverbs 31:15

Think on this: While the scripture states “She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.” It could just as easily read: “Those who are wise are not hesitant to get started on their day, and it is through their patient and positive morning routine that they are able to prepare the day for others!”

I rise before the dawning of the morning, and cry for help; I hope in Your word. —Psalm 119:147

ON A SCALE OF 1-10… (10 being the highest most confident in your patience) Write down on a piece of paper where you see yourself in the area of patience. How patient do you feel you are?

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Today’s daily focus is on patience. It is not a kind of patience without works however, this week in addition to the other daily characteristics we are studying, we are going to begin applying patience to our morning routines.

The challenge is to wake up early* everyday for a week (you will need patience with yourself and others in order to do this!). Out of all the 22 Principle Attributes this day/week was the hardest for me to adhere to. It may be very difficult for you, as well, but if you can be disciplined to wake up early, you will undoubtedly begin seeing benefits by the end of the week.

THE EARLY TO RISE WIFE

Ladies, in waking up early you will be able to take control of the whole atmosphere of your home BEFORE everyone else begins to stir. If you are not normally an early bird, the key for you to making this a successful week will be to pray the night before. Ask the Lord to multiply your sleep and meditate on good and positive thoughts as you drift off. If you do this every night before you go to bed, you will wake up every morning feeling enthusiastic and blessed. You will sleep peacefully and you wake up refreshed.

Make sure to give yourself enough time every night and every morning to read at least one bible scripture. Make waking up early a game if you have to.  A concerted effort to put a smile on your face (maybe even some make-up) before everyone else is awake will cause your family to begin to think that they should put in the effort too. As the saying goes “It always starts at home.” Instead I would have to say, “It always starts with mom!” Your family will begin to greatly appreciate the effort, take it from me …you can do this!

She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. —Proverbs 31:15

THE EARLY TO RISE HUSBAND

It has been in my experience that men have a much easier time waking early then women. Their natural ability to “seize the day,” often comes into action, and they can wake up with a “Go, go, go” mantra.  If you are a man such as this, today and this upcoming week, I would like to encourage you to dig deeper than just “Go, go, go.” Your prosperity and success in your life is determined more by your morning mental routine than any other activity you can do.  What you think, dream, pray, visualize and meditate on in the early morning hours will determine how you go about your day and how others see and respect your actions. Take for example these two men,

TONY: Executive

Tony has a job working at a Fortune 50 company.  He wakes up at 7am showers, brushes his teeth, shaves, and walks into his closet and finds freshly pressed clothes to wear. Tony dresses then goes to his car and drives to work. On his way to work he yawns, stretches and dreams about his first in a series of many cups of coffee. The stress, pressure, and mental exhaustion that he under goes leaves him by the end of the day with only enough energy to eat his dinner in front of the television and tell the kids “Goodnight.” He and his wife watch separate television programs and the most exciting thing that they do in the evening is fight for the covers. Tony is stuck, in a high paying rut.

WILLIAM: Store Clerk

William is a store clerk. He has worked at his company for the last six months, but has a vision and a dream to own the company some day. William wakes up at 5am and prays for guidance and clarity. He doesn’t spend much time praying for what he wants, instead he talks to God as a Senior Business Partner, and counsels with the approach to the day that God would have him to make. William then goes through a morning routine of preparing his mind with some light reading, a few minutes of Bible study and ends his hour with stretching and deep inhalation. At around 6:30 am, William begins to shower, shave, and eat the breakfast he (or his wife) has prepared. (Unlike Tony who’s breakfast consisted of a pot of coffee) He then chooses his best and cleanest uniform. His spirit being fed and covered, his outer appearance has lined up with the inner man and he has full confidence leaving the house even in his dungarees. William leaves early for the store and on his way walking to work he has an iPod with his favorite sermons to listen to. William literally has energy to spare. William does his best at work, and after 6 months he has already been promoted twice. He started as a janitor, and now is on his way to head clerk. Customers have begun requesting his services and the boss has taken notice. When William’s day is done, he goes home to an enthusiastic response from his wife and children and helps his wife clean up after dinner and still has the energy to walk the children around the block before bed. The children go to bed at 8:30, and William stays up until 10pm reading, loving on his wife, and praying thanksgiving for his day. William has a dream, and is cultivating his mind in order to do so.   

It is not enough for us to just leap out of bed and shout “Go, go, go!” We must have a weightier substance behind our desire to daily achieve.  Our morning routine is our catalyst, it is our blueprint, and it is our title deed to our success in life.  Having a morning routine in place is not meant to be rigid, or burdensome. It is meant to have purpose.  If until now your morning purpose has been “just to get to work,” I would challenge you this week to begin setting up your day giving yourself the advantage. Create an environment for yourself that will not only create positive growth it will begin forcing growth to happen. We are a product of our thoughts, and the way we think from morning to night will be determined within the first hour of your day. Think of it as first fruits, or a morning tithe of your time.

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“If you take the time to put God first you will find you have time for everything else that you need to get done.”- P. George Pearsons, Eagle Mountain International Church

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Waking up early takes discipline and in order for us to be able to wake up and start serving others, we must serve God first. It is through Him that we will have the energy to put our own needs last (the physical need to sleep in, etc.). Getting up early gets us up in order to fill our spirits to overflowing with God’s Word.

When you wake up early and have enough time to make breakfast or lunch for the day, you will begin your day with peace of mind because the house is quiet.  You are not the only one who benefits from raising up early, your family will also have a great start to their day, instantaneously they will awake and begin feeding off of the energy in the house that you and God alone have created. You are making it possible for them to be more productive, and in turn, more successful.

Think about the child who is sent off to school with a bowl of cold cereal, power bar, or worse yet, nothing at all. How well do you they do on their exams, or how equipped are they to handle the stresses throughout his day?

Our children are not only starving spiritually, they are starving physically for the love and care that a parent can give in the form of substance and time conversing in the morning hours. The time that you spend eating together can be a miraculous time of strength and victory. A meal shared with a parent who cares, will far supersede a chance occurrence with a friend who tempts them to do wrong.

So let us be brave this week, and patient with our progress. Let us give it our best effort to change and perfect our morning routine.  This will take all the patience we have, and will be perhaps the greatest exercise of self-control that you undergo. Let us do everything we can to wake up early and challenge the norm. Before you know it, you will be waking up before everyone, and you will be happy and blessed in order to be able to do so!

Today’s Key Take Away:

• Waking up early is on purpose, and not just to get ourselves out of the door. Our daily successes build and compound. Day after day, when we focus on the right type of set up we begin creating a life long motion of increase. Starting our day on a positive note not only benefits us, but it benefits others and through our example of the mastery of the mind through what we focus on daily, others will begin to take notice and begin seeking our source of peace and inspiration from within.

Today’s Reflection: What did I learn about myself?

How did waking up early this week change the atmosphere of the house? Who was impacted the greatest? If you kept this morning routine for a year, what can you see happening?

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Your Wholeness Journey – DAY FIVE

Today’s principle focus is on being persistent in the kitchen

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Today’s Positive Affirmation and Encouraging Words to Live By:

“If at first I don’t succeed, I will try, try again!”

Scripture References: Proverbs 31:14

Think on this: While the scripture states “She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. ” It could just as easily read: “The wise are persistent and diligent, going to great lengths to find things interesting, even their food!”

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. – Philippians 4: 13

ON A SCALE OF 1-10… (10 being the highest most confident in your ability to be persistent in the kitchen) Write down on a piece of paper where you see yourself in the area of persistence. How persistent do you feel you are?

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Today we move our attribute study into the Kitchen. Did you know that the Bible refers quite often to food or cooking? Several times in the Bible there is mention of food. Take for example Jesus and the five fish and five loaves of bread, or in John 21 food is mentioned where Jesus is cooking breakfast for His disciples. There was the time Abraham had Sarah cook for the “strangers”, and of course the last supper. While cooking may seem trivial to some, you’ll agree that eating is a crucial element of life.

She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. – Proverbs 31:14

Today’s focus is on adding flavor to your food and to your life. How does spicing up your food and life exemplify “persistence”? Persistence is found in everything that we do but perhaps none so obvious as in the kitchen. No food will ever be cooked in exactly the same way twice (shapes, sizes, and flavor vary) and we must consistently better our best. In the time of the Old Testament, spices and exotic flavors were as valuable as gold or silver. People needed, wanted, and loved the flavors of life. 

Then she gave the king one hundred and twenty talents of gold, spices in great quantity, and precious stones. There never again came such abundance of spices as the queen of Sheba gave to King Solomon. – 1 Kings 10:10

Today, let us concentrate on making a “WOW!” effort in the kitchen with a new recipe or a new food “experiment”, and lets start spicing things up! Those who I have met who cook well and love what they cook are as exciting as the flavors they use to cook with. I have heard countless political, spiritual, and emotional debates all taking place in the small footprint of a kitchen. Incredible conversations ranging from my Dad’s underwater scuba diving tales to my Grandmother’s adventures in far off places, all while they were slicing and dicing for supper. It has been in my experience that those who love to cook have a love for life and vice versa. They go about making meals for their family that have interest and keep their eaters guessing. “What’s for dinner tonight?” People who care to cook seem to have a wonderful ability not just to cook the same old same old, but try new things and make them come off as interesting as they are.

This attribute of persistence and diligence in every aspect of life even shows up on the wise persons dinner table! The wise men and women of God are adventurous and radiate such life that even their food tastes better! Good news! You don’t have to sail to the ends of the earth to get spices anymore! With better selection in our local markets you now have the ability to purchase spices that will enable you to make exotic flavored foods at reasonable prices. If you have the money and the time to improve your cooking skills, I would strongly encourage you to do so. Your entire family will benefit from you being able to cook, and cook well. I believe this scripture is in the Bible because God cares about the “whole” package. Yes, cooking is a very important part of the package.

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Food is fuel, and when you eat well and cook well, you are better equipped to continue in the persistence of doing God’s work

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Just think how amazing it is when your loved one cooks for you, or if the person who ordinarily gets to cook is given a night off. How blessed are you when you go to a nice dinner in town? Eating, food, and loving life from the inside out will have a tremendous impact on your ability to persist in your life. Food is fuel, and when you eat well and cook well, you are better equipped to continue in the persistence of doing God’s work. Good food does not have to be expensive. Make sure the food you are cooking is as natural as possible, has no artificial coloring or flavors, and keep things simple if you have to. Fresh is best. It is better for you to eat one baked potato than a thousand store bought potato chips!

There are many outstanding cookbooks that are readily available to you. With the Internet you can also find many great websites with cooking ideas and specialized ingredients. My absolute favorite cookbook of all time is The Joy of Cooking, by Irma S. Rombauer Becker and Ethan Becker. In my opinion, it is an essential cookbook for any kitchen. It is easy to read and will walk you through most of all of the basic cooking recipes that you will ever need. If you can’t afford 75 a cookbook, seek out a family friend who loves to cook or search your local library. There are endless cookbooks, cooking videos, and magazines that you can look to for inspiration.

This Principle in Action:

King Solomon: King of Israel King Solomon the wisest man in history left us with some advice, “Go then, eat your bread in happiness and drink your wine with a cheerful heart; for God has already approved your works. Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might…”Eccl 9:9-10 NASB

Today’s Key Take Away:

• When looking to be complete in all areas, we must not forget that what we put in our mouths plays a large role in how we feel. People who desire to have a completed outlook on life, do not wait to have someone do something for them, they do not get married just so that someone else can cook for them. They can cook, clean, and take very good care of themselves. They understand that their value as a future spouse is largely dependent on their ability to take care of themselves. Scripture says, “Love thy neighbor, as you love thyself.”

Today’s Reflection: What did I learn about myself? If you could add an extra hour to your cooking and prep time, what would you make? How did your family act after your new meal?

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Your Wholeness Journey – DAY THREE

Today’s principle focus is on Service

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Today’s Positive Affirmation and Encouraging Words to Live By:(Repeat this statement as you go about your day and feel the need to take instead of give.)

“I enjoy serving and giving to others.”

Scripture References: Proverbs 31:12

Think on this: While the scripture states “She brings him good, not harm all the days of her life.” It could just as easily for today’s modern family needs read: “The wise ones will bring each other good, not harm all the days of their lives.”

Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you. —Luke 6:38

ON A SCALE OF 1-10… (10 being the highest most confident in your ability to serve) Write down on a piece of paper where you see yourself in the area of service. How service oriented do you feel you are?

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Our third day in our journey to Wholeness in Christ is devoted to servitude, a day of eagerly anticipating serving your fellow human being, especially your family! Someone who is focused on serving looks for ways to bless their household. They go out of their way to schedule oil changes, car washes, play dates and dry-cleaning trips. They use their spare time to invest in enriching the lives of others.

A PORTRAIT OF A SERVANT-HEARTED SINGLE:

The servant-hearted single has perhaps the best opportunity for ministry available on this earth. This man or woman can freely come and go, worship openly and unabated and can give God all of their attention. The Apostle Paul wrote,

Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 1 Cor. 7 NIV

The servant-hearted single can come and go as they please and can listen to God with open ears. They can hear His direction and immediately act on it, without having to ask someone else for approval or opinion. A servant-hearted single can be diligently submitted to God and His will for their lives as long as they take the time and discipline required to be still and know that He is God. (Psalm 46:10) Listen, pray and obey.

A SERVANT-HEARTED WIFE:

Both servant-hearted wives and servant-hearted husbands must listen and obey God. However, they are in a different position than singles. They have a partner to communicate with and confer with. When this is done right and by the Spirit the two in agreement can do anything!

Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. Matt. 18:19

The servant-hearted wife will communicate with her husband regularly, asking him if there is anything he would like her to do for him. I call Jeff every morning, to ask if there is anything I can do for him that day. Whether you are a working wife or not, this does wonders for the relationship. Realize that if you serve your husband long enough, in no time you will begin to reap a personal harvest of joy.

The servant-hearted wife’s goal is to be the very best wife and mother possible. She knows beyond a shadow of a doubt replacing her would be impossible, and she strives to maintain poise and dignity all the days that she is married.  Scripture says, “all the days of her life.”

The serving wife cares to speak highly of her husband, both to the world and to her children. She is compassionate when she hears other wives speaking negatively about their husbands. She constantly speaks encouraging words to her husband and to others, she can be found praying for the other wives she knows, that they might someday too feel as loved as she does.

Talk to your husband today and ask him if you can do anything for him to lighten his load. (This is a thing any good brother, sister, or best-friend would do… it is common curtesy in a relationship) If there are things around the house that you know he would like to have done, try and get them done.

A SERVANT-HEARTED HUSBAND:

The servant-hearted husband offers to take the kids for his wife, engages in conversation, cooks, and yes even changes the occasional diaper. Men don’t have to do much to show their wives they care. Women can be easily pleased by being made dinner for, or by being taken out to dinner. When you as a husband make sure the dishes get done and your wife gets a good night of sleep… well, everything else comes off as a heroic!

He who loves his wife loves himself. Eph. 5

Is there anything that your wife is in need of right now, that a little money or time could make happen for her? Can you remember anything she might have mentioned in particular? Serve her and watch what happens. You might rekindle that feeling of deep love for her that you thought was all but gone!

 

EVERYONE HAS A DREAM, FIND OUT WHAT YOUR SPOUSES IS – AND BEGIN TO ENCOURAGE IT

Are there any life long dreams that you know of that you can look into for your spouse? Dreams are very important, as important as needs. Without dreaming for the moon, how would we ever reach the stars? Research is free, and often times you can get brochures or DVD’S on the things they have always wanted to accomplish. Encourage dreams!  Scripture says,

A plan in the heart of a man is like deep water, but a man of understanding draws it out. Proverbs 20:5

Knowing your dreams and being able to draw them out of each other, takes an understanding man and wife. Set some time aside today to really meditate on how you can bless each other and draw out your deepest dreams and desires for life. What is that unaccomplished goal? Where is that place that you have always wanted to see? Spend time together tonight before bed dreaming about the future.

Everyone has a need and a dream, find your spouses and begin to fill it. I personally have done hours of research on golf, Citation X aircrafts, cost of flights and travel to Africa and Class A Motor homes. These are dreams wrapped in a material package, but both Jeff and I know that these dreams will never be fulfilled without first seeking God and His Kingdom. (Matt. 6:33)

Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.  Psalm 37:4

SUGGESTED POTENTIAL READING:

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

This excellent book will explain to you key insight about your spouse and their individual ways that they communicate love. According to his understanding of men and women, each person has a certain love language complete with internal  ‘love tanks’, he encourages us all to work at filling our spouses love tanks and suggests that most problems in marriage stem from emptied love tanks. Just like a gasoline engine, no car ever runs when it is empty, neither does a relationship operate when someone isn’t getting the right love message. This book will change your marriage and how you understand your spouses communication and how they speak love to you.

The Five Love Languages are:

1. Physical Touch
2. Words of Affirmation
3. Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Quality Time

Learn to unlock and fill up your spouses “Love Tank” today!

 

THIS PRINCIPLE IN ACTION:

Local Gardener, Loving Father

I once heard a story of a father who worked hard as a gardener. He did very well at his job, but was not paid very much. His daughter took an interest as a girl in piano. She was very naturally talented. When he came to understand that she was gifted, he immediately got her involved in the best piano teaching school that was available. When she asked him if he was sure about what he was doing, his simple reply was “Yes, I’m a working man.”

His daughter went on to win many musical awards including  “most talented piano player in her grade in the Los Angeles Public School System.”

Today’s Key Take Away:

• Everyone has a dream and it is an important factor in serving someone if you know your friends/family/loved ones dream, as well as the dreams of your own. If you focus on serving others and encouraging them in their dreams you will be doing your part to bring them good, all the days of your life.

 

Today’s Reflection: What did I learn about myself?

Take a moment to list your dreams and what dreams of others you may have discovered today. How did focusing on service to others make a difference in your life today?

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Your Wholeness Journey – DAY TWO

Today’s principle focus is on Confidence

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Today’s Positive Affirmation and Encouraging Words to Live By: (Repeat this statement as you go about your day when you need a dose of courage)

“I am confident in all my relationships, I am a confident human being.”

Scripture Reference: Proverbs 31:11 (This study isn’t only for a “Proverbs 31 woman” it is for ALL men & women. It is in our belief each and every soul can benefit from following after the heart of the principles found in Proverbs 31. It is with this viewpoint we have chosen to refer to this strain of Proverbs as “The Wisdom of Proverbs 31”. See our previous blog post HERE for more explanation of how this study works.) 

Think on this: While the scripture states “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.” It could just as easily for today’s modern family needs (single fathers and mothers alike) read: “Those who are able to be confident and have the confidence of others will lack nothing of value.” It is in my belief the Lord desires to exclude NO one from His scripture – especially in the case of such a wonderful sequence of Proverbs such as Prov. 31:10-31. In the next 20 days we will continue to read through Proverbs 31 as applicable to both sexes, male and female.

ON A SCALE OF 1-10… (10 being the highest most confident in your confidence) Write down on a piece of paper where you see yourself in the area of confidence. How confident do you feel you are?

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WIVES and Confidence:

Wives, today is the day we start looking at our husbands as we may have never looked at them before, totally capable of doing anything, and everything! All the tallest trees must first come from a seed! As you walk in confidence in your husband’s abilities, you will quickly find yourself in the position of lacking nothing of value.  

HUSBANDS and Confidence:

Husbands, begin today by placing your confidence in your wife, speak with her your concerns and desires for the future. Know your wife desires to be a partner with you – united as one flesh. You will find your wife speaks in the language of security, showing her confidence and trust by having regular conversations about your plans for the future, will cause your wife to be glad to make sure you lack nothing of value!  

SINGLE and Confident:

If you are single, begin today by growing more confident in your love for God. What has He done for you lately? What are you doing for Him? He desires to be your true love. When you begin to seek Him, you will find that you will begin to desire to be His true love. Consider Matt. 6:33. What you will read about in the following blog is applicable to all your relationships – siblings, bosses, teachers, employees.

Trustworthy parents create confidence in their children.

BEGIN BY FACILITATING TRUST

Proverb 31:11 states when we place confidence in each other, “no valuable thing will be lacked.” Having confidence in yourself and others doesn’t just mean you think you can do anything, it also means you can be found a trustworthy individual capable of being given visions, plans, dreams, and inner most desires in confidence. Confidence is rooted in trust. As a matter of fact Oxford Dictionary’s definition of confidence is:

Confidence: (n) the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust

Today, is there anything you think you can do to facilitate building or perhaps rebuilding the trust of others? Apologizing for past offenses, or completing something you thought you could never do before, will begin making it clear to your family and friends that they can have confidence in you and your abilities.  

The old adage is  “you can’t give away what you don’t have.” In finding this statement true, you won’t be able to give confidence, if you don’t have confidence.

When I started working on building up my confidence, I had to begin the mental process of letting go of unrealistic expectations and the way that I thought about things. Finances, ‘honey dos’, and family time management where all things that my husband had offered to take responsibility for, honestly he is better at those things than me. It isn’t because he is a “man” it is because these are areas in which he is strong. 

I take care of paying the bills and managing the logistics of eight independent schedules and in so doing, this frees him up to be the Evangelist I know the Lord has made him. He Evangelizes by traveling and making connections with others, while I stay and teach and write out-of-the-home. Together we make a strong and powerful couple. If our strengths were the other way around, things would be different in our home. Building trust and confidence in his abilities to provide by way of his skills and talents, have meant that I had to learn to leave him alone in how he executed these tasks. As soon as I stopped micromanaging the way he did things, I was able to help him become the man I most desired, a partner worthy of the most trust and confidence. As he continued to go out and do what the Lord called him to do in his own time and of his own free-will, this built my personal self-confidence. I was able to begin feeling respected in return. Respect builds confidence. The fact of the matter is your spouse and family will need to know that you have confidence their abilities, before they can begin to trust and have confidence in you.

BUILDING A BRIDGE

If I asked Jeff to take out the trash, and if he said he would, but for some reason didn’t get around to it right away, it used to drive me nuts! I was raised in such a way that as soon as someone asked you to do something, you did it! Until I decided to work on my marriage did I look at taking out the trash as an opportunity to “build a bridge”.

“Building a bridge”, is a saying we use when you have an opportunity to make a connection with someone else. Obviously, building a bridge is the opposite of tearing one down. Doing things intentionally to push people away is tearing down potential bridge building opportunities. Encouraging people and allowing them to make mistakes, draw close to you “bridge building” moments. Focus today on building as many bridges (or positive connections) as possible today.  

As far as taking the trash out was concerned, I would still ask Jeff to take it out, however I started building a bridge with him by leaving the trash out until he would get around to doing it in his own time. I learned that if I didn’t nag him in the process of waiting for him, he would see that I trusted him, even if the job took forever to get done. It wasn’t very long until he started taking the trash out right away, not because I nagged him, but because he wanted to do it and he knew I trusted him to get the job done. If it simply took too long, I would do it myself – that is what a best-friend would do.

Trust + Respect = Increased Confidence

When you begin to show others you have total confidence in them, they will desire to rise to the challenge set before them, and you will begin to add tremendous value to each other. When you honor others and believe in their abilities, there is nothing they won’t be able to accomplish! There is nothing they won’t think is too good for you! What separates you from a life of success and poverty? It could very well be your attitude towards others. Do others desire to bless you and add value to your life? Or has your lack of trust and confidence in yourself kept you from your prosperity?

Does your spouse feel encouraged? Do they know beyond a shadow of a doubt after God, they are the most important person in your life? Do you spend more time consoling and caring for the kids, or for your spouse? What about your job, your hobby, or your toys?

Unfortunately I speak to many women who would rather ‘baby’ their children then be supportive wives to their husbands. They wash, iron, and fold their little ones overalls, but completely neglect their husbands needs without a thought. In the same breath, I speak to many husbands who ‘baby’ their boats, bank accounts, and their friends more than they encourage their wives to become more than just glorified babysitters.

Somehow unknowingly to them, these spouses have created an ongoing attitude of angst toward each other for the things they have been put them through. They have subconsciously decided that making their spouse “pay” is the best way for them to feel their pain.

Your spouse should be considered your BEST FRIEND

Your spouse really should be treated like your very best friend, your most trusted confidant, your muse. How late would you allow your friend to be, if you were going out? How would things be different if it was your best guy pal, or girlfriend that crashed your car? We should strive to build bridges with our spouses, like we build bridges with our friends. Honestly, friends will come and go, but you never married your spouse to see them go. You married your spouse for love, and that loved one is the reason that you need to decide to treat them the best.

Your own personal confidence will begin to grow when you can understand the basic differences between men and women. This is important because as you understand men do not think the same as women, you will see how you can communicate better and become more confident in your relationship.

When you encourage your spouse to start new projects, regardless of the risk of failure you will in turn create in them an unbelievable sense of confidence. How you ask? Simple, they will be fulfilled by pursuing their vision. They will gain confidence by doing what they love and any time a person goes about doing what they love, they will be paid handsomely for it. Support your spouse and their vision (husband or wife) and their confidence in their ability to succeed will sky-rocket.

Jeff & I at our friends 1950’s themed costume party – while I miss the style of “the good old days” it is extremely satisfying to know how far we have come as a church in understanding the partnership between a man and a woman. “So they are no longer two, but one flesh.” Mark 10:8

WE THINK DIFFERENT – BUT NEITHER WAY IS “BETTER”

No, men do not think like women do. No amount of manipulating or crying will ever get through to them. Men live in a realm of respect and manipulation is an abuse of respect. A person who is feeling manipulated will only see your acts as constant complaining. Men have been designed with an uncanny ability to immediately “go into work mode” as if in auto-pilot in order to get through stressful situations, it would help you as a wife if you could see when your husband become cool and almost calculative – they aren’t been mean as much as they are preparing for a job which must get done. A job to solve whatever problem you bring them, engage your husbands aid in solving complex problems – you do not have to go it alone.

Women don’t think like men do, we can be fairly opposite. We have an ability to rest while we are working to stop and smell the roses, see the forest through the trees, and emotionally ‘feel’ when a situation is right or wrong. Husbands, as you go through your day today remember your wife has been given an ability to read situations for what they really are. Call it woman’s intuition if you will, I am sure if you look into your past you would be able to see instances when your wives intuition could have saved you hundreds, if not thousands of dollars. Don’t let the demon of pride keep you from listening to your wives gut feelings when in the long run her emotional responses most certainly have been proven right.

In on page 13 of his amazing book Jewish Literacy Revised Ed: The Most Important Things to Know About the Jewish Religion, Its People, and Its History (Hardcover), Rabbi Joseph Telushkin states,

“While the Bible is sometimes dismissed as Patriarchal and sexist, the four Matriarchs of Judaism, Sarah (wife of Abraham), Rebecca (Isaac’s wife), Rachel, and Leah (both married to Jacob), operate on a level of virtual equality with their husbands. For example, when Sarah wishes to expel her servant, Hagar, and Hagar’s son, Ishmael, from their house, the Patriarch is very upset and refuses to do so. But God intervenes: “Whatever Sarah tells you, do as she says” (Genesis 21:12). A few chapters later, the Torah makes it clear that Rebecca has far better insight into the character and destiny of her sons, Esau and Jacob, than her husband Isaac does (Genesis27).”

Vow to put your spouses needs ahead of your own

Even though there may have been hurtful words said in the past, vow to put your spouses needs above your own and you will begin to see things change for you. You won’t fight as much, (you will recover faster) your spouse will begin to feel respected and adored, and they will have full confidence in you! Your physical needs soon will be met and neither you nor your spouse will lack anything of value! The Bible says so!

Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. Proverbs 31:11

SINGLE, BUT MARRIED TO GOD

If you are single please understand that the Lord has not left you out, He is your husband. Even as married Christians we should consider we are married to God first, in our level of commitment to Him. When we choose to put His Word first place in our lives, we are committing to Him for eternity regardless of the faith of our spouses God is our one true love.

We all desire our spouses to be our best friends long after our children move away from home. Take the time now to invest heavily in your relationship with each other, building the bridges of trust and respect needed to strengthen your confidence in one another, so that when you become empty nesters, you will remember how to love each other. Don’t be stuck in an offended insecure marriage trap that too often ends in divorce. The golden years are the best to come!

Five Key Phrases to Calm-Down any Fight:

1. “Can you please forgive me?”

Try using this instead of “I’m Sorry.” When you ask for someone’s forgiveness, immediately you are assuming responsibility for the offense and it will cause the other person to have to say “Yes,” or “No.” Giving you more to talk about while you are working through the issue.

2. “I understand how you feel, that would make me feel the same way too.”

Earnestly try and empathize with those that could be upset with you. Think about them, and why they are losing their patience with you. It might be that they are tired, hungry, angry, or even lonely.

3. “I am sorry I disrespected you,” or “Can you please forgive me for showing you any disrespect?”

Any time you mention respect to someone, male or female, their ears immediately perk up! Just as yesterday we studied Nobility, today we will put in practice changing our responses from hurt and offended to noble and wise. 

4. Wives, you may want to try this “Could you please help me understand where you are coming from? Is there a key issue, or bottom line that you would like me to understand?”

Even though this sounds more professional than marital, understand that when your husband is upset with you, or something you have done, he may immediately shuts down into that work mode. He may come off icy at best, and professional in attitude. After all, this is how he deals with conflicts daily. Don’t be surprised if he begins to talk to you as a secretary or employee. If that happens, just try and stay unemotional, and play the role back to him. He will learn to respect you, and feel respected at the same time.

5. Husbands, you may want to try this “Is there anything I can help you with? I understand you are under a lot of pressure right now with ‘xyz’, (try and be specific it will be more endearing and show that you have been listening) I would like to give you all of my attention until we can get this situation resolved… please tell me again how I can help.”

If the situation has gotten beyond the ability to talk, do not be afraid to go right up to your wife and give her a big hug, and let her cry. Most often the response when people get offended is to run away, but never underestimate the power of an authentic embrace. Sometimes it is all we women need.

THIS PRINCIPLE IN ACTION

The Forgiving Man or Woman

Imagine with me for a moment that you asked your spouse to mow the lawn, and they said they would.  For whatever reason three weeks have now gone by and the grass unfortunately has gotten longer, not shorter. What to do? Well, you might consider mowing it yourself or finding a neighbor, a child, or a gardner to do it for you.

Having your spouse come home to a mowed lawn \they did not have to mow is going to do one of two things… It is either going to make them mad at themselves for not doing having done it sooner or they will worship you in relief! Now there is that odd chance that they may not even notice… but hey, the grass did get cut, which was the objective the whole time! Build a bridge, be a friend to your spouse.

Today’s Key Take Away:

 

• Men and women are created differently. Understanding this truth will teach us how to communicate effectively and cause us to create confidence in others. When we can gain someone’s trust and respect they will in turn place their confidence in you. As you gain confidence, the Bible says you will lack nothing of value. Be confident… YOU CAN DO IT!

 

Today’s Reflection: What did I learn about myself?

What did acting more trustworthy and respectful in your relationships do for you today? Did you begin to feel that others were giving you more of their time or attention? Did you feel more confident as a result? What did you learn about yourself after a whole day of focusing on being and giving away confidence?

If you feel comfortable, comment and share your experience – we are all in this together!

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Day #22: A 22 Day Challenge that Will Change Your Life!

 

This paint by numbers “Jesus” is one of my favorite finds while antiquing –

a favorite past time of mine.

22 LIFE CHANGING DAYS

Uncovering Proverbs 31 and Unveiling the Preacher Girl Within Me

When I was a little girl, my mother had a vision of me speaking in front of the multitudes. She saw from God above a glimpse of the “Preacher Girl” within me. In the 22-Day Challenge, I have fully embraced that Preacher Girl and am excited to share with you the revelation that the Lord has shown me, and wants me to give to you, He is awesome!  

In searching for a formula throughout The Word of God that would forever change my life, and be repetitive and predictable enough to teach to others, I was directed through prayer to Proverbs 31.

In this extended example of the perfected individual, the Word so perfectly describes a person that we can all live to become, even in today’s modern times. Within Proverbs 31, there are found 22 individual principles hidden in its outline for individual success. Within its poetically written verses you will find 22 individual, easily doable attributes that men and women both can commit to becoming better at. Proverbs 31 holds the key to unlocking a new and improved you. The only thing standing in your way of wholehearted living then is your own personal belief.

Could you believe with me that 22 days could change your life and marriage, forever? Years of hurting and sorrow turned around in a mere month? What if I told you that “Yes”, yes 22 days are all you need and that by focusing on one principle a day, you can and will forever change your life. The Word of God is that good, and is that real, and is that powerful.

If you would allow me to share with you the principles that I have learned in the last 20 years of motherhood and marriage, I will show you how when applied, the Proverbs 31 principles of success and changing the way you are thinking on a daily basis can positively impact your life permanently. I have personally applied these following principles, and they have changed my life, by changing my pre-formed habits.  

Once I began applying the Word of God personally, I ended up becoming a tender loving mother and successful wife, to a successful husband. Jeff became a happy husband full of self-esteem through the overflowing love that I was expressing toward him. Even though we have not always been rich, we have been rich towards God and that is an entirely different matter. If it weren’t for the lean times I wouldn’t be able to share with someone who has none. If it weren’t for the abundant times, I would have nothing to offer those who have it all. We have been down to our last diaper and have had the Lord provide a way.  As a couple, we have had luxury items to spare. He is forever our Hero.

As I took on the 22 Day Challenge myself, I became whole bodied, along with wholehearted. Daily I focused on at least one new principle and scripture. By adding a new way of thinking about my life to my life, I began to see my bad habits change into positive personal growth. Who would have thought that one book could affect someone so much, and so quickly.

In the next few pages entitled “The 22 Day Challenge”, you will find 22 different outlined principles for building success in marriage, life and relationships. They each come complete with a rating system, a positive “words to live by” affirmation for the day, a scripture reference to back up the principle of focus for the day, and a space for personal reflection.

Why are ‘Positive Affirmations’ and ‘Words to Live By’ important? These words to live by become critically important to your success in life due to the fact that we are bombarded daily by negative influences and by other sources than that of The Word of God.  

Newspapers, magazines, television, Internet, and association all affect our lives due to the fact that our lives have people and their individual opinions in them. The thing to remember as Christian’s, is that we should not strive to force others out of our lives, but we must learn how to do then, is learn how to successfully impart the Word of God into our hearts and minds so that we can live in harmony with others and not let their opinions become our identity. ‘Personal affirmations’ and life-giving ‘Words to live by’, keep us focused on positive reactions to daily trials that go on throughout our day. When you feel yourself start to become defeated you will be able to affirm to yourself in your own words, that you will be able to get through any seemingly impossible situation.

At the beginning of each principle you read and apply in your life, rate where you feel you are personally at on the scale provided, from 0-10. These principles have been designed for you to go through one day at a time, but feel free to do them one a year, a week, a month, whatever you feel is needed the most for you and your situation. The quicker that you complete the program with the most thoroughness, the faster you will see results, but don’t be afraid to take your time and go over it again and again if necessary.  

Make sure to give yourself at least one entire day devoted to focusing on the principle before you proceed to the next principle of action. At the end of the day in your quiet time, jot down what you noticed happened to you, or the people around you as you focused on that principle of the day. What did you learn? How was it applied? By the end of the 22 days, log which days are scaled at a 5 rating or below. As you learn more about yourself, you will then know which areas in your life and relationships that will need the most work.

Positive affirmations backed by The Word of God have changed our lives. Enjoy accomplishing the following 22-Day Challenge. I know you’ll find that it is a great start to a life of personal growth and spiritual fulfillment!

This is an excerpt from my book “Wholehearted: How I Received Healing From the Inside Out and You Can Too!”